When we think about effective leadership, the first thing that may come to mind is a “pit bull” attitude, which includes such traits as competitiveness and assertiveness. Is anyone a fan of HBO’s Entourage? Unfortunately, the aggressive Ari Gold method may not work so well for most people. Others may believe in a more subtle approach – to be more collaborative, nurturing, and sensitive towards others. However, if we allow ourselves to find a balance between the two, we may just be able to have our cake and eat it too…

To be able to present your point of view while simultaneously being able to persuade others to actively listen to you is a recipe for success. Rather than characterizing yourself as powerful and strong-willed in a negative light, you can accomplish great things by learning to become a good leader.

Here are some tips that can make all the difference:

1. Agree to disagree

Hear out other people’s point of view. They may have a great counterargument that can lead to smart decision-making. If you acknowledge others instead of shutting them out, you can also demonstrate the benefits of teamwork.

2. Seek Common Ground

Understand where the other person is coming from and join forces to make the best possible decision. Remember, you both have a mutual goal for success.

3. Start a Revolution

Don’t act self-righteous because you can, and because you want others to give into your beliefs. Instead, inspire others to come together and build upon the possibilities.

4. Accept the Haters

There will always be those who find fault with authority. No matter how you approach a situation, make sure to be the ‘bigger man” …or woman. Intimidation should not be met with aggression when there are other people involved who do wish to reach an agreement.

Remember, effective leadership can lead to the implementation of changes you want to see. And it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to back down… For some laughs, check out this video on how not to handle your next conflict.