Mentors are often left out of the discussion when talking about job search strategy but that doesn’t mean they are any less important than any other approach you take. According to Brazen Careerist writer Berrak S.:

Research indicates that people with mentors perform better on the job, advance more rapidly in their organization and have more all-around job satisfaction…

For the lucky ones, a mentor may end up being a relative, a family friend or a parent’s coworker. However, most people need to look beyond their inner circles to find a good mentor. And that requires patience, self-confidence and a little bit of nudging.”

In a recent blog post Berrak breaks down a few tips to start with when seeking out a mentor.

Identify your goals.
Many people fail at finding a mentor because they didn’t take the time to figure out why they even needed a mentor. And, just like any other type of networking, people can’t help you if you don’t know what you need from them.

Before you begin reaching out to potential mentors, create a mission statement for yourself that defines why you need mentorship. Make sure that your mission is clear during your exchanges with these people.

Ask good questions.
Penelope Trunk says, “People spend time thinking more about answers than questions, but it’s the questions that make you look smart.” Asking good questions is the best way to rope in a mentor.

One of the best ways to get better at asking questions is to start fielding other people’s questions more. A good way to practice is actually through Brazen Careerist groups. Join a group that looks interesting, browse the conversation threads, and reply to questions that grab your attention.

Don’t be afraid.
Josh Hanagarne says that reciprocity is king. The worst that can happen when you reach out and ask someone to be your mentor is that they will say no. But you won’t know until you try.

More often than not, those who have been there before you want to help you. You just need to have the self-confidence to reach out with a clear goal in mind, ask good questions and occasionally nudge a little.

Remember, that it’s not just about asking for help, but showing your mentor what you can do for them.